Change

By CoachDianeMarie on February 27, 2013 • ( 0 )

Sometimes I wonder why is it so difficult for people to “change”. When does a person reach the point where they actually “get it?” As I have come to understand recently, it’s not for us to understand why people do the things that they do. It’s for us to accept that they did what they did (because it has already happened) and now what am I supposed to do because this person did what they did. In many ways, I think people make excuses for the situations in which they put themselves in.

Why do we wait for people to change when they change that needs to happen, is the change in ourselves?

We have all heard time after time that you can’t change people. Well if you can’t change people, change yourself.

The change that sometimes we witness in other people is often because of a change that has happened within us. Whether its objectively good or bad. When we make new friends, when we lose old friends, most of the time it’s because of a change that has happened. Sometimes it’s necessary for us to accept a person as they are. But when we accept a person as they are, it’s up to u to adapt to that person (because you have accept who they are) or it’s up to you to decide whether this is not something that you can adapt to, and you move on. Moving on doesn’t imply that you no longer associate yourself with that person, but move on mentally. Why “stay” in a situation when you know and believe that the person will not change?

It’s not for the person to change, it’s for you to change.

I know changing and accepting change is something that is very scary. But it’s OK for us to be scared, and it’s OK for us to be hesitant to go down towards an unfamiliar path. However, realize that change happens every day, to everyone, all the time. Therefore, it can be done. We are blessed in so many ways that we often turn a blind eye to the blessings that God has afforded to us. Bad experiences, bad relationships, bad friends are ALSO BLESSINGS! Learn from them, study them, use them to your advantage! Get to know yourself more because of that “blessing” that you went through.

Don’t wait for someone to change.

Because while you’re waiting and hoping for that person to change, you’re missing out on opportunities for you own personal growth to occur.

Because while you’re waiting and hoping for that person to change, you’re stuck in a rewinding cycle.

Because while you’re waiting and hoping for that person to change, you’re not changing for the good.

Because while you’re waiting and hoping for that person to change, you’re going down the wrong path.

Because while you’re waiting and hoping for that person to change, you’re life is changing direction.

“There is nothing wrong with change. As long as it’s in the right direction.”

Namaste,